Friday, May 17, 2013

Blogging is a Funny Thing

Hey guys!

I feel like I have been MIA around here for the past couple of weeks. I have had absolutely no motivation to blog, or even catch up on the blogs I read daily. I have no idea why. I go through spurts where I'm like "must read every single blog! Must write atleast 5 days a week!" and then I have weeks where I'm like " I don't give a rat's ass about blogging or reading blogs" and that has been this last couple of weeks. 

I hate feeling guilty for not blogging or for not checking Twitter and giving shout outs to my sponsors. I am so thankful for those people who choose to advertise on my page and I never want them to forget that. However, I also don't want to feel pressure to come up with a post when I feel like I'd rather do almost anything else. I love blogging, but when it starts feeling like a job, it's not as fun. That's not what blogging is about for me.

I started this blog for Garrett and I, and for our friends and families. Along the way I have gained more followers, began advertising on other's blogs as well as having people advertise on mine. Quite frankly, I'm a little over it. I'm over the giveaway's and the whole competition of who has the most followers.

For me, blogging is a creative outlet as well as an online memory book. It's something I do to preserve memories, pictures, and moments that Garrett and I have. Sometimes I feel like it has gotten away from that and has turned into a silly blog world competition to see how many new followers I can get and how many giveaways I can participate in. I don't want blogging to turn into something negative for me. I want to have the same excitement about it that I did when I first started. When I had like 5 followers and didn't care.

Blogging is a funny thing. You want to have more followers so that you can share your life with more people as well as learn about theirs, but at the same time more followers brings about new things such as advertising. I guess it doesn't have to. It is not mandatory that I advertise or swap buttons. I'm not even sure that I plan on stopping advertising or having people advertise with me. I just know that I want things to change around here. I don't want my blog to be a business that I stress out over.

So, what do I plan to change? Not much. 

In fact, the only thing I want to change is the feeling of guilt I get when I go for 3 days without so much as a peep in the blog world. I want to come and go as I please, posting when I want to and commenting when I want to. I still want to advertise and accept advertising, I just don't want to feel like I have to post 5 days a week or I am letting people down. I realize that this may mean that no one will want to advertise with me, and I am ok with that. I didn't start this blog to earn money. If people do choose to advertise with me still, I will be very thankful. I will still do everything that I say I will, I just may not post 5 days a week every week. I will post when I feel like I have something relevant and fun to talk about. 

So, there ya go. No big changes are coming up, I just wanted to let you in on how I have been feeling lately. Also, I was wondering if you had any advice? Do you ever feel pressure to come up with a post just to please your readers or out of fear of losing readers? How do you deal with it?

Ps. This post started out on a whoooole different topic and somehow ended up on this one. Funny how that happens sometimes!

Happy Friday! 
I'm headed to Austin, TX on Sunday and couldn't be more excited!


  1. Good for you for speaking your mind and heart. It's your blog and should be fun for you and when it starts to feel like a chore or a job, it sucks the fun and passion out of it. I totally understand all of what you just shared and feel the same way on a lot of it at times. Do what's best for you, girl!!

  2. I totally could have written this myself, when I started blogging it was a theraputic outlet for me, and then over time I started to get more followers, and people asking me to guest post which caused me to stress, because then it wasn't fun, it was more like work and work and I just don't get along very well. If you aren't inspired then you shouldn't blog, honestly this is your place and you should never feel pressured. I myself have worried about loosing readers (and I don't do advertisement) but then I realized that it made blogging a lot less fun,and if the readers I have really want to hear what I say then they will stick around even if I am not updating or writting every day.

  3. That's exactly why I don't even want to go there with the sponsorships and weekly link ups and the constant mass group giveaways. Even though it's tempting sometimes because it seems like that's what everyone else is doing. I've only won add space or done button swaps. Most of the "stuff" is so not me and it's so not what this blogging thing was ever about for me. Even if it means that I won't have a ton of followers. The only time I blogged daily was to recap my Europe trip! Maybe we just think we want blogger mogul status but in reality we don't. It's not for everyone.

  4. I have been feeling a bit stressed about blog stuff lately, too, which is not how it should least for me. I want to post with content and I want to engage with my readers. All the promoting posts, etc. is making me exhausted! I think that the people who are cnsistent readers will come back even if you don't post five days a week. Have a great time in Austin with your BFF, Taylor ;)

  5. I haven't blogged in a few days. I'm reading for the first time in a week. I feel the exact same way.

  6. I went through the same thing. I finally decided instead of trying to force it, I just won't write anything. And whoever is left when I come back, well that's just dandy.

  7. I'm often guilty of abandoning my blog for weeks on end.

    It helps that I don't have much of a readership, but I'm okay with that; I write my blog for myself first and foremost. It's definitely gratifying when people comment, but when I try to force things, it just becomes contrived and boring.

    Good luck on your blog journey! I enjoy reading about all of the misadventures of Whitney and Garrett, who I never hang out with :(

  8. I would rather read 3 quality posts in a week instead of 5 meh posts. I feel the same way about what I write. I have been setting 5 weekly goals, and sometimes I think I should write a blog goal, but then I remember that blogging should be a fun hobby, not something I am forcing myself to do.

  9. I'm in the same boat right now, Whitney...thats why I'm counting down the days to vacation! Have a great weekend


  10. I totally agree, my bog is a creative outlet!

    Sparkles and Shoes

  11. i struggle with blogging too - especially lately. and hate the feeling that I have to do it when I started it just for fun and for me! so i like that attitude! :)

  12. i think you've got a great attitude about blogging!!! i am so with ya on blogging for you and keeping it to more so document everything. don't feel guilty one bit about not posting or commenting all the time. your blog is for YOU. :) i love reading about the fun you and garrett have. and giveaways and advertising are fun too. you've got a great balance!
    i feel the same way as you...i blog when i want to. when it feels right.
    i hope you have an AMAZING time in TX!!!!!! <3<3<3
    Lots of love

  13. I completely hear you. That is why I've stayed away from advertising, doing giveaways, etc. I feel like it makes blogging less fun and more of a business. My blog is not a business but a journal so I've tried very hard to keep it to that. If I get new followers, great, if I don't great, I'm happy with the ones I do have.

    Anytime I get overwhelmed I just take a break. That usually works :)

  14. post when you can. since it is not really a business for you, no need to update daily unless you want to. but i do get it as i feel bad when i have not posted something. basically, if it is posted your readers will read and continue to follow. enjoy your trip!

  15. This is a great post! That's the way I view my blog. I chose just a generic layout, nothing fancy, and I don't have any followers. To me blogging isn't about that; it is more about just writing and getting your thoughts out there. If you're able to connect with others and share your story than that is just an added bonus.

    Thank you for sharing.

  16. Good for you, girl!! Make sure you're keeping blogging fun!!! :-)

  17. i guess i don't have much of a following and rarely comments so i don't feel like i have to preform and put up five million posts all the time. which is a good thing. but sometimes i do wish i had blogger friends that i talk to on a regular basis like some people i've seen.